RE Dating while Black-genuine questions
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I'd like to answer your questions but craigslist is bouncing replies as "undeliverable." Anyway:"Is it the institutional White-Eurocentric beauty standards that causes ahidden bias? The presumption that we will be obnoxious and overpowering? Loud and un/undereducated? Hard and ghetto? Slutty and hypersexual? Are people concerned of what others might think, or just thimk we will not be interested? What do you feel/think when you pass a Black woman, even one that you are attacted you? If you do find yourself attacted to one, what prevents you from talking to her?"I've never made a move on a black woman who I've found attractive. I've got dating anxiety to begin with, and it just seems like there's too much to unpack before I would feel comfortable approaching her. There's so many added layers for missteps. Sometimes I think, why the hell would she want some white boy coming up to her - she's going to feel exoticized, she's going to wonder if I'm only attracted to her because of the stereotypes. And yeah, when I'm attracted to a black woman, I have to ask myself: am I attracted to her, or to the stereotypes I've internalized abouther?Now, really I know that I should just say "fuck it" and talk to someone if I think they're attractive - but it's easy to say that in front of the keyboard, less so when it happens. I have been very sheltered all my life as far as race goes - growing up in a small white town, going to school at a college not particularly known for its diverse student body, and now coming to Portland.I'm 24, white, male. Average looks. Hope this helps.